Community Guidelines

This site is for you (yes, you), and it’s up to you to make it the safe, amusing, fun place you want it to be! Here are some pointers for all you kinky daters out there:

Play Nice

We want everyone to have a good time here, so let's be polite and respectful to everyone, alrighty?

Be polite. Remember — your future date may be here, too! Be kind, thoughtful, and considerate in your interactions with fellow members. Remember: your future play partner, mentor, dat or lover may be on Dating Kinky, so always be on your best behavior. If you have an issue with another member, or a post or comment, please contact our abuse department, and we'll do our best to resolve it.

Recognize the good work other members are doing with a simple please and thank you. Everyone loves a good pat on the back, after all!

It's easy to misinterpret things online, so let's not assume bad intentions: People will think differently than you; English might not be their first language; or their kid will have spilled a glass of milk on the cat a second ago; or they might not understand the particular nuances with which you speak. Or … who knows? A willingness to forgive will go a long way, especially when directed towards new members who might not yet have fully learned what effects their actions have on others.

If you spot something not so nice going on in Dating Kinky, do your part and let us know here.

"Hey, c'mon. Play fair!" Remember that nagging voice of your childhood best friend when someone cheated? Well, it was for a good reason. Creating multiple accounts, spamming, posting duplicates or nonsense answers are forms of cheating the community. Please don't do it. We are not about points or winning, so let's put helping each other make connections at the top of the list.

Share That Know-How. Everyone has a little Einstein in them, so there's a good chance someone could use your knowledge, opinion or experience. Don't be shy to add to a discussion. Just make sure it's something that hasn't been posted before – duplicates make things a little harder to sift through.

Recognize Brilliance. See a great post? Say so with a comment.

Give credit where it's due. If sharing work that's not your own, please give credit where it's due. You'd want the same done for you.

The Community is live, baby! We can't guarantee the accuracy of every post, we do our best to keep an eye on things.

Be a Straight Shooter! Like mama always said, honesty is the best policy. Please don't misrepresent stuff, like your identity or credentials.

Don't be too shy to ask tough questions or reward the honesty of others. As long as you keep things respectful, everything should be sunshine and lollipops. Maybe even rainbows and unicorn glitter farts.

Keep Private Stuff Private

To avoid having to repost a question (because we’ll delete it), keep personal info, like your phone number, birthday, email and home address to yourself. Some things are just meant to be handled one-on-one, you know?

Email account-related issues to our support team instead of posting them in the community to keep your info safe and private.

We do what we can to remove content with private info. If you happen to see any being posted, please do your part and let support know. It could help save someone a bunch of trouble!

Getting the Most out of Dating Kinky

There are so many ways you can make Dating Kinky a better place, and benefit from it in return.

Read on for some of our favorite tips on everything from getting your questions answered to building your reputation. Prepare for awesomeness.

Asking Questions

  • Ask questions with as much accuracy and detail as possible.
  • Relevant and clear titles are key. It makes it way easier for others with the same question to find and you'll get a quicker answer. Woo hoo!
  • Include any relevant search results you've come across. The magic word is "relevant" – links to "Literal Videos: Total Eclipse of the Heart" and "Sloth Dubstep" won't really help.

Answering Questions

  • Do your best to be clear and concise and stay on topic. If it helps, eat a snickers beforehand (just kidding...kind of).
  • Avoid duplicate answers to keep things clear and uncluttered for everyone. Avoid duplicate answers to keep things clear and uncluttered for everyone. Avoid duplicate answers to keep things clear and uncluttered for everyone.
  • Don't guess. This isn't Jeopardy!, so there's no shame in not knowing the answer. Posting incorrect information or fantasy wank material makes things harder for others who may be really trying to figure this all out.
  • Play nice. If someone gets a tad nasty, feel free to leave a friendly reminder that we're all here to help each other. If it gets out of hand, you can let us know here.

Goody Bits

We LOVE goody bits! Just not out in public for everyone. Genitalia, specifically, whether in photographs or in drawings is allowed in private albums set to friends, specific friends, or password-protected.

We're not trying to harsh your buzz or anything, however, there are certain guidelines we have to meet to make sure that our site and our apps are available to the largest number of people FOR YOU. Because people are what make Dating Kinky great!

We define genitalia as any thing including breasts, vaginal, labial, penile, scrotum and anal areas.

Naughty Stuff (Reporting a No-No)

You're our eyes and ears! If you think a member isn't following the Community Guidelines, let us know here.


Everyone deserves a second chance, but please don't push us! To keep Dating Kinky amazing, we won't hesitate to remove a member if they're being a jerk and intentionally breaking the rules. Although we're pretty sure 99.9999999% of you aren't going to do that, you can let us know here if you do happen to see any no-nos.

Disrespectful or Hateful Comments

"You smell and your hair looks fat!"

Well no, that's not true, but just proving a point – it doesn't feel too great to be talked to like that, right? That's why we have a zero-tolerance policy for attacks on other members, except in our Anything Goes forum. That includes attacks based on race, ethnicity, religion, disability, gender, age, sexual orientation or gender identity. We don't have to sing Kumbaya but, you know, just be cool.

Bullying, Trolling or Harassment

  • This is a place to give each other a hand, so harassment, bullying, impersonation, intimidation and abuse have only one place here—the Anything Goes forum. Sarcasm is a no-no in the Keep-It-Clean forums, since it can be hurtful and doesn't help you make meaningful connections. And no, we're not being sarcastic.
  • A disagreement isn't a good excuse for bad manners. It's okay to debate respectfully – let's work together to resolve conflict and understand each other. Helping to make Dating Kinky better will make you feel all warm and fuzzy, trust us.
  • Hectoring, badgering and continuing to talk to people after they’ve expressed that they don’t want to talk to you is just another kind of harassment: don’t do it.

Bad Language

Let's keep the ****ing potty mouth out of it, including abbreviations or scrambled words (e.g., f*** you, fcuk). Just kidding! We don’t mind colorful language. That said,be careful how you you use those words in the 100% positive fora, and don’t use it to insult out of the Anything Goes forum.


High-quality answers make the Community more helpful, so don't post duplicate questions and answers, solicitations, off-topic posts and random gibberish.

OUFJEIJOIJOFIGJHOFIHE!!! See, it doesn't help.

Copyright Infringement

If you see photos or videos that you've created in another member's account or posts, don't panic. This is probably just a misunderstanding and not malicious. A good first step is to contact them via Dating Kinky and politely ask them to remove it. If that doesn't work, please submit a DMCA takedown request. [LINK]

You may be tempted to post an entry on your photostream or in our public forum about what's happening shaming the other user, but that's not the best way to resolve a possible copyright problem. We don't encourage singling out individuals like this on Dating Kinkyas it could be seen as harassment which is against our guidelines.

Nitty Gritty

The Community is moderated by staff and volunteers, and there are some guidelines all members need to stick to, including said staff, volunteers and paying members.

  • Dating Kinky reserves the right to ban any member for any reason.
  • Dating Kinky reserves the right to delete and archive any posts.
  • Dating Kinky reserves the right to remove Dating Kinky and access to it or any of it's pieces to any user at any time.
  • Members with more than one account can be banned.

Anything Illegal

Posting anything that infringes on the law, copyrights or registered trademarks isn't allowed. The same goes for tricking people into sharing personal information. More on this in our Terms of Use.


Dating Kinky is not responsible for the answers provided by community members, including owners, moderatators, customers, reps and staff.


  • Dating Kinky reserves the right to withhold information.
  • Dating Kinky reserves the right to share information with the authorities, with proper warrants and need.
  • Dating Kinky is not responsible for any personal information on public community pages.


Dating Kinky reserves the right to change and update the guidelines and rules in order to maintain the community's effectiveness.

Moderator Decision-Making

Administrators have the final say on things, but if something you post gets removed, we'll share the reason with you.

Creating threads or posts that question or reference potential or past administrative decisions are not permitted. If you have a concern, you can let our abuse team know directly here instead of publicly on the site.

We reserve the right to remove content that

  • is considered likely to disrupt, provoke, attack or offend others
  • is racist, sexist, homophobic, abusive or otherwise objectionable and hateful
  • contains language likely to offend
  • breaks the law or condone or encourage unlawful activity (this includes breach of copyright, defamation and contempt of court, and various sexual acts illegal in most of the United States—if you post illegal content, your account will be deleted and we'll take appropriate action, which may include reporting you to the authorities)
  • advertises products or services for profit or gain
  • is seen to impersonate someone else
  • includes contact details such as phone numbers, postal or email addresses
  • contains links to other websites which break our editorial guidelines
  • describes or encourage activities which could endanger the safety or well-being of others
  • is considered to be 'spam', that is posts containing the same, or similar, message posted multiple times
  • is considered to be off-topic for the particular message board
  • contains children under the US legal adult age of 18 or APPEARS to contain underage children
  • contains genitalia in your avatar or primary photos (genitalia includes vaginal, labial, penile, scrotum and anal areas—please reserve these photos for albums locked to friends only)

Make It Your Own

Dating Kinky profiles, blogs, forums and other services are intended for members to share original photos and other content that they themselves have created.

If your photos or content has been posted here without your permission, please contact us.

Really, Just Don't Be An Asshole

These Community Guidelines are here to help you understand what it means to be a member of Dating Kinky. Don't forget that your use of Dating Kinky is subject to these Community Guidelines and our Terms of Service.

If you don't feel that you can abide by our Community Guidelines as outlined above, maybe Dating Kinky isn't for you. We've crafted these guidelines to ensure that everyone within the Dating Kinky community has a good time and has the greatest chances to meet fantastic kinky peeps.

You may also want to check out our FAQs and Privacy Policy. If you ever have any questions or comments, we'd love to hear from you. Please feel free to drop us a line through our contact page, or just drop me a line directly.


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