Dating Kinky Frequently Asked Questions

Dating Kinky

What's the join process like?

It's easy and secure!

Here's a video showing you how simple it is:


Why has my account been suspended?

Your account on Dating Kinky can be suspended for one of the following reasons:

The email address attached to your account marked messages from Dating Kinky as spam.


When this happens, we suspend the account, send a message, and give 24 hours for you to confirm that you do own the email that you were using, and that the spam reporting was an error.

We have a lot of reasons for this policy:

1. When messages from Dating Kinky are marked as spam, it could be because you had access to an account that wasn't your to sign up, and now the real user has taken over (Yes, this has happened. People use hacked accounts to sign up for all sorts of things.). We want to make sure that you are the owner of that email.

2. When you mark our messages as spam, it puts a black mark on our record, and every message you then get from us is another weight against us being an awesome, fabulous, and legitimate site. Domain reputation is taken into account by ISPs on how fast they send people to us, by search engines, and by email providers, on whether they will keep delivering our email. You are hurting every member of Dating Kinky when you do this.

3. You can turn off any/all messages from Dating Kinky in your profile. There are links at the bottom of EVERY email from the website:

- Unsubscribe from this type of notifications
- Change preferences and frequency of these notifications
- Unsubscribe from all notifications

You have been reported for spamming, as a fake or phishing account.

When our members report a profile as spam or fake, we take it very seriously, and will take steps to protect the integrity of the site.

When this happens, we suspend the account, send a message, and give 24 hours for you to confirm that you do are the person you portray in your Dating Kinky Profile.

You have been reported for abuse.

Look, just don't be an asshole. It's a thing. Anyone can be an asshole once in a while. When it becomes a pattern, though, well, we will step in, and you won't be welcome.

When this happens, we suspend the account, send a message, and give 7 days for you to respond and address the situation.

If there are multiple reports, that time frame will shorten, considerably.

Your email has started bouncing.

When this happens, we suspend the account, send a message (which you will not get), and give 24 hours for you to give us a new valid email address for your account to be re-activated.

We have a lot of reasons for this policy:

1. When messages from Dating Kinky are marked as bouncing, it shows that you might not be active with Dating Kinky anymore.

2. When we send email messages that bounce, it puts a black mark on our record, and every message sent to that email from us is another weight against us being an awesome, fabulous, and legitimate site. Domain reputation is taken into account by ISPs on how fast they send people to us, by search engines, and by email providers, on whether they will keep delivering our email. Every member of Dating Kinky is affected by our reputation when they log in.

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Dating Kinky is for people looking to really connect with others. Being mean, faking who you are and spamming people, or hurting the site's reputation are the opposite of what we want in our members.

Thank you for helping to keep Dating Kinky real!

What's with blocking temp emails?

A 10-minute mail account is a handy thing, and I understand why you want to use it. However, long term, this does harm to sites like mine.

You see, every time we send you an email to an address that doesn't exist, it's a black mark against our reputation, and makes us look like we spam.

You still don't need to receive any emails from us, all of our messages allow you unsubscribe.

However, to keep our membership 100% authentic and to keep our reputation clean (for our other members), accounts without valid emails will be suspended or deleted.

Thank you so much for your understanding.  
Profile & Photos

How do I post AWESOME photos and still protect my identity?

So, have you gotten up some photos, yet?

Or are you still a bit nervous about what you can and should show, while still protecting your identity?

While I’m ‘out,’ and show my face easily to all, not everyone can do that, because of, well, reasons.

So, how do we show our authenticity without exposing our personal lives to scrutiny?

Do this with photos:
  • Get creative!
  • Take good pictures.
  • Include LOTS of color or make them B&W.
  • Use interesting filters.
  • Hide your face with: http://www.facepixelizer.com/
  • Show off parts of you that you are proud of.
  • Reveal your unique bits.
  • Show off your kink and interests.
  • Be sexy.
  • Have fun.
  • Present the ‘you’ you love to others.



I’ve already suggested a good face obfuscation tool in http://www.facepixelizer.com/, there are also a few other tools that I highly recommend for not only getting awesome shots, but making them really pop:

Snapseed
iPhone: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/snapseed/id439438619?mt=8
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.niksoftware.snapseed&hl=en )
This app brings to your mobile device the power and control of professional photo editing software, previously only available on the desktop. Now with the tap of a finger you can retouch, adjust perspective, re-edit, and more.



Prisma
iPhone: https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/prisma-art-photo-editor-free/id1122649984?mt=8
Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.neuralprisma&hl=en
Be an artist! Turn your photos into awesome artworks:
Modern art filters!
Stunning photo effects



These are my favorites, but perhaps you know more. Please do suggest your own go-to apps and online tools for photo editing, creativity and privacy.

Let’s look at some examples that show off what you can do:



PeonForHer has done an amazing job with his primary photo...



As has Pepper Potts.



Here's one of mine.

Now there is no reason not to put up some personalized photos of you to really make your profile pop!

What does a profile look like?

We've given you LOTS of ways to show yourself off and to say exactly who you are and what you're looking for at Dating Kinky!


Features & Functionality

How do those notes on profiles work?

The "Your Notes" block on other users' profiles is just for you to add you own impressions, thoughts, and ideas about the possible match.

Don't worry, though! They can't see them. It's just for you—sort of a virtual sticky note.

Here's a video showing you exactly what the process is:


How do I send a NookieCard?

It's easy. Just watch this step-by-step video!


What are credits, and how do they work?

Credits are put into place for you to be able to get more cool options. For example, eCards will cost credits to send. Everyone gets one photo verification, but with credits, you can get another, and stay updated.

Stuff like that.

It's not really totally in place yet, as you can't use credits for much of anything (the eCards are credit-less right now), but I wanted you to be able to earn credits from your first sign in, anyway.

In the credits box on your dashboard, you'll see a "Cost of Actions" link. It currently has the following information:

EARN CREDITS:
Daily login 5
User join    10
Add photo    3

SPEND CREDITS
Add your profile to the Hot List    -20

We don't have the hot list, yet, either, but it's essentially a way to be featured.

So, there you go. It's not complete, and I'm sure I'll find interesting ways to make it work, or I'll scrap the idea if it's too complex.

How can I turn off chat?

You can't, not yet. We're working on that.

BUT you can turn off the auto pop-up, and keep it out of your way, by unchecking the box in "My Preferences."


Privacy & Security

How do you protect my photos?

Simple.

1. Only logged in members can see your photos.

2. You can set privacy on your albums.

3. We have disabled right-click downloading of all images.

4. Because some people know how to get around that, photos uploaded to Dating Kinky get a light, all-over watermark, and your user information placed on the bottom. If someone does download/steal your photo, this will be a clear indicator that it does not belong to them, even if they crop out the user information.

There's some wording about emails in the Terms of Service that worry me.

Hey! This has come up before. Let's go through those:

4.5. You specifically agree to accept all bulk commercial email that may be sent by the Website, its principals, Affiliates, assigns, successors, parent company, or other persons or corporations acting in conjunction with Us. If You commence membership You are hereby deemed to be engaging in a business relationship with Us. Such business relationships shall permit Us to send You unsolicited email for the purpose of promoting services provided by Our Website or other services as may be offered from time to time by the Website, its parent corporation, subsidiaries, or partners. Cancellation of Your account or other business relationships with Us shall not be deemed to terminate Our relationship with You with respect to the provision of unsolicited commercial email. This business relationship is specifically deemed to continue indefinitely until explicitly terminated by You.

12.5. Cancellation of Your account or other business relationships with Us shall not be deemed to terminate Our relationship with You with respect to the provision of unsolicited commercial e-mail. This business relationship is specifically deemed to continue indefinitely until explicitly terminated by You, by following the automated procedure specified in section of 12.1 of this document.

So, here's what's up. Yes, we may send you emails. Even promotional emails.

Dating Kinky  cannot force you to agree to something illegal when you sign up for my site, nor would we.

Let me explain this another way.


1. You sign up. At this point, your email is in the database. According to the Terms of Service, Dating Kinky can use that in any way we choose. However, our PERSONAL choice at this point is to primarily use the in-site messaging system, rather than clog your email. You will receive messages from Dating Kinky in-site.


2. Dating Kinky has a need to reach out to you with something very important, via email. We can move your email address (with explicitly granted permission) to the email server and send you an email.


3. You receive the email. Any email from the server (versus the site, specifically dealing with in-site content) MUST include an unsubscribe link. You may click this AT ANY TIME, and never receive a non-site communication email again.


This is the law. CAN-SPAM. Dating Kinky cannot overrule that law, nor would we ever desire to.


4. Let's say you do not click that unsubscribe link. But you do find the kinky love of your life, and leave the site. You are removed from our site database, so you no longer receive in-site notifications of action updates.


5. Your email address is still in the email server database (they are separate, as they are managed by different rules (Dating Kinky's) and laws (Federal—that CAN-SPAM thing again). You get another email. Again, you simply click "unsubscribe," and you no longer receive any messages from that list, either, for any reason.


You are in control.


It's that simple.

I'm getting emails, and I can't unsubscribe? Isn't that illegal?

Spam laws don't apply to the emails you receive from Dating Kinky, as the messages you receive are notifications about activity on the site, not commercial messages.*

That said, You have total control over the emails you receive through your preferences:

http://www.datingkinky.com/email-notifications

You can choose which emails you receive easily and completely.

*smiles*



* For more information, see:

https://www.ftc.gov/tips-advice/business-center/guidance/can-spam-act-compliance-guide-business

Look specifically at Transactional Content, Part "5. delivers goods or services as part of a transaction that the recipient already has agreed to."

What if someone on Dating Kinky is using my photos without permission?

If you believe that photograph(s) of you have been posted on Dating Kinky without your consent, follow the steps below to get them removed.

You will need to verify your identity, to show that you are the person who holds ownership of the subject photo(s), because only the photo owner has a right to request that photos be removed.

We are able to accept verification of your identity by any of the following means:

1) You can use the Contact Us form to send a picture of yourself to our abuse email holding up a piece of paper with the words "TAKEDOWN" written on it. We must be able to clearly see your face for us to be able to compare it to the photograph(s) needing to be removed. Uploading a verification photograph is the simplest and easiest way to verify your identity.

2) You can alternatively use the Contact Us form to upload an image of your government issued photo-identification card. This can be your drivers license, passport, or other government-issued identification card which has your picture on it. Feel free to obscure sensitive information such as your identification number with a felt-tip marker or correction fluid if desired.

Because of the nature of photographs on the internet, links to websites containing your photographs, instagram accounts or other social media are not definitive means of establishing your ownership of the pictures.

Also, photographs MUST be reported by the photograph owner. They cannot be reported by another on their behalf, so please send them the link to this page as needed.

Once we've received your report, it will generally take us about 3 business days to take action. If your photographs can be verified, the offending photos will be removed.

Am I exposing myself to search engines?

No one can access the site without being signed in, and we are not crawled by search engines.

This is an important part of how we protect your personal privacy.
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